What You Need for Gender Expression — A Guide to Packers, STPs & Gender-Affirming Products
What You Need for Gender Expression — A Guide to Packers, STPs & Gender-Affirming Products
Gender expression through adult products is a meaningful, practical, and increasingly accessible part of many people's lives — whether they're transgender, non-binary, gender non-conforming, or simply exploring how they present and experience their own body. Sex Toys Melbourne stocks a range of gender expression products including packers, stand-to-pee devices, and gender-affirming toys, available with the same discreet, fast delivery as our other products.
This guide covers the main categories of gender expression products, what they do, how to use them, and what to consider when choosing. It's written to be useful whether you're exploring these products for the first time or looking to expand an existing collection.
Quick links:
- Packers — what they are and how to use them
- Stand-to-pee devices
- Feminisation and gender play products
- Our top Melbourne picks
- Wearing and care guide
- Frequently asked questions
Packers — What They Are and How to Use Them
A packer is a soft, non-erect prosthetic penis designed to be worn in underwear to create the visual and physical sensation of a bulge. Packers are used by:
- Trans men and transmasculine people seeking gender affirmation and a more comfortable, natural feel in their body
- Non-binary and gender non-conforming people exploring masculine presentation
- Performers and cosplayers
- People exploring gender play as part of sexual practice
Unlike dildos or penetrative toys, packers are designed primarily for wearing rather than sexual use. They're made to be soft, skin-like, and comfortable for extended daily wear. The best packers are made from body-safe silicone that closely mimics the texture and weight of natural anatomy.
Choosing a packer
Key considerations:
Size
Packers come in different sizes, from discreet small options to more prominent large packers. Consider what you want to achieve — a subtle natural-looking bulge in everyday clothing, or a more visible presentation. Smaller packers are generally more comfortable for extended daily wear and less visible under different types of clothing.
Skin tone
Packers are available in a range of skin tones. Choose something that feels affirming to you — whether that's matching your own skin tone or a different choice that feels right.
Material
Body-safe silicone is the gold standard — non-porous, easy to clean, skin-like in texture, and durable. Avoid porous materials that can harbour bacteria, particularly for skin-contact products worn daily.
How to wear a packer
Packers are worn inside underwear, typically positioned naturally in the front of the underwear pouch. Purpose-designed packing underwear has a specially shaped pouch or pocket that holds the packer securely without it shifting. This is often a much more comfortable solution than trying to position a packer in standard underwear.
Packing harnesses are another option — they hold the packer in place and can also be used to attach packing dildos for sexual use when desired.
Pack-and-play packers
Some packers are dual-purpose — designed for both everyday packing and sexual use. They typically have an internal channel or firmer inner core that allows them to be used for penetration with a harness when desired, while remaining soft enough for comfortable everyday packing. If you want a packer that also functions as a sex toy, look for "pack-and-play" designs.
Stand-to-Pee Devices
A stand-to-pee (STP) device is a funnel-shaped device that allows the user to urinate while standing. STPs are used by trans men, transmasculine people, and non-binary people for whom the ability to use urinals or stand to urinate is an important part of gender affirmation and daily comfort.
Types of STP devices
Simple funnel STPs
A funnel with a forward-facing spout that channels urine away from the body while standing. These are typically the most compact and travel-friendly option. The Gender X Stand to Pee is a realistic-looking funnel design that provides both function and a gender-affirming aesthetic.
Packer-STP hybrids
Devices that function as both a packer and an STP — worn daily as a packer and used as an STP when needed. These require more practice to use correctly but eliminate the need to carry a separate device.
How to use an STP
Practice at home before using in public situations. The learning curve is real — positioning the device correctly to avoid leaks takes practice. Start by practicing in the shower or over a toilet at home until the positioning feels natural. Key principles: ensure a complete seal between the device and body before starting, angle the spout downward, and flow control (not rushing) makes a significant difference to reliability.
Hygiene
Clean your STP device thoroughly after every use. Rinse with warm water immediately, then wash with soap or toy cleaner. Dry completely before storing or carrying. Silicone STPs can be boiled or dishwashed for full sterilisation.
Feminisation and Gender Play Products
Gender expression products aren't exclusively transmasculine. The store also carries products used in feminisation play, gender play, and by trans women and transfeminine people:
Chastity devices for gender play
The Pussyfyer Pink Pussy Chastity Cage is specifically designed for feminisation dynamics — combining chastity restriction with feminine-coded aesthetics. Popular in feminisation play, sissy dynamics, and for trans women exploring chastity as part of gender expression.
Lingerie and gender expression
Our full lingerie range is available without size or gender restrictions. Body harnesses, teddies, and bodystockings are used across gender expressions. Browse our full lingerie range.
Our Top Gender Expression Picks — Available Now in Melbourne
Gender X Stand to Pee (Light) — $79.99
A realistic-looking stand-to-pee funnel in light flesh tone from the Gender X range. Designed to provide both function and gender-affirming aesthetics — a realistic penile shape that positions naturally while channelling urine forward. Body-safe silicone, easy to clean, compact enough for daily carry. Available in light and dark skin tones.
Realistic design • STP function • Body-safe silicone • Light flesh tone • Gender-affirming
Gender X Stand to Pee (Dark) — $79.99
The dark brown skin tone version of the Gender X STP — same functional design and body-safe silicone, in a darker skin tone. Having a range of skin tones available matters for gender affirmation — the option that feels most natural and affirming is the right choice.
Realistic design • STP function • Body-safe silicone • Dark brown tone • Gender-affirming
On the Go Silicone Packer (Honey) — $67.95
A body-safe silicone everyday packer in a honey skin tone — soft, realistic in texture, designed for comfortable daily wear. The On the Go packer is compact enough for comfortable day-long wear without bulk, and the honey tone provides a warm mid-range skin tone option for those for whom lighter or darker options don't feel right.
Daily wear design • Body-safe silicone • Honey skin tone • Realistic texture • Compact
Large Bulge Soft Packer Dildo (Medium Tone) — $46.95
A larger-profile soft packer for those who prefer a more prominent bulge. The Large Bulge Soft Packer provides more visible presence under clothing while maintaining the soft, realistic texture needed for comfortable wear. Available in medium and light skin tones. A good choice for those who want a more assertive presentation.
Large profile • Soft realistic material • Medium skin tone • Comfortable wear • Visible bulge
Shop Large Bulge Packer Medium →
Large Bulge Soft Packer Dildo (Light) — $46.95
The light skin tone version of the Large Bulge packer — same design and soft material, in a lighter tone. Having skin tone options that feel personal and affirming matters. Both the medium and light versions are available for those who want the same profile in a different tone.
Large profile • Soft realistic material • Light skin tone • Comfortable wear • Visible bulge
Shop Large Bulge Packer Light →
Wearing and Care Guide
Packer care
Clean silicone packers with warm water and toy cleaner or mild soap after every use. Non-motorised silicone packers can be boiled for full sterilisation. Store in a clean, dry pouch away from other silicone products. Inspect regularly for any damage or degradation, particularly if worn daily.
STP care
Rinse immediately after every use with warm water. Wash with soap or toy cleaner. Dry thoroughly before storing or carrying. Silicone STPs can be boiled for full sterilisation. Carry a small water bottle when using an STP in public — a rinse after use makes cleaning easier.
Packing underwear
Purpose-designed packing underwear makes daily packer wear significantly more comfortable and secure. Look for underwear with a built-in pouch or pocket that holds the packer in position without shifting. Dedicated packing underwear is available from specialist retailers both online and in Melbourne.
Frequently Asked Questions
What's the difference between a packer and a dildo?
A packer is designed for wearing in underwear — it's soft, non-erect, and prioritises realistic appearance and comfortable wear. A dildo is designed for penetrative sexual use. Some pack-and-play designs bridge both functions, but standard packers are not designed for sexual use and standard dildos are not comfortable for extended daily wear.
Do I need special underwear to wear a packer?
Standard underwear can work, but purpose-designed packing underwear with a built-in pouch holds the packer much more securely and comfortably. For daily wear, packing underwear is strongly recommended.
How do I learn to use an STP without leaking?
Practice at home, starting in the shower or over a toilet. The key variables are: a complete seal between the device and body, the angle of the spout, and controlled flow. Most people achieve comfortable, reliable use after several practice sessions. Don't attempt to use an STP in a public situation until you're confident from home practice.
Are these products available discreetly?
Yes. All orders from Sex Toys Melbourne ship in completely plain unmarked packaging. No external branding, generic sender name, discreet bank statement reference. We understand that privacy and discretion matter particularly for gender expression products.
What if I'm unsure what I need?
Contact us via our contact page. We respond within 24 hours and all enquiries are handled with complete discretion and without judgment.
How quickly does delivery to Melbourne take?
Same-day dispatch before 2pm AEST. Melbourne metro 1–3 business days in completely plain unmarked packaging.
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