Sex Toys to Try With Your Partner — A Woman's Guide
Sex Toys to Try With Your Partner — A Woman's Guide
Bringing sex toys into partnered sex is one of the most impactful things you can do for your sexual satisfaction — and yet it's also one of the things most couples never quite get around to. The hesitation usually comes down to not knowing where to start, uncertainty about how a partner will respond, or simply not knowing which toys actually work in the context of sex with another person.
This guide is written specifically from a woman's perspective, covering the toys that work best during partnered sex, how to introduce them without awkwardness, and exactly what to expect from each category.
Quick links:
- Why use toys with a partner?
- How to introduce the conversation
- Best categories for partnered use
- Our top Melbourne picks
- Tips for the first time
- Frequently asked questions
Why Use Toys With a Partner?
The most straightforward reason: around 70–80% of women require direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and penetrative sex alone doesn't provide this for most people. A vibrator, air pulsation toy, or vibrating cock ring held between partners during sex adds the stimulation that's structurally missing from penetration alone.
But beyond the practical, toys introduce novelty, create shared experiences, and build a level of honest communication about pleasure that often deepens intimacy in ways that go beyond the bedroom. Couples who use toys together consistently report higher sexual satisfaction and stronger communication about desires and preferences.
The myth that toys in a relationship mean something is lacking is exactly that — a myth. Research suggests the opposite: couples who use toys together tend to have more satisfying sex lives than those who don't.
How to Introduce the Conversation
Bring it up outside the bedroom
The worst time to suggest trying a sex toy for the first time is in the middle of sex. Raising it during a relaxed, non-sexual conversation — over dinner, on a walk, in the car — removes pressure and gives both partners space to respond thoughtfully rather than reactively.
Frame it as exploration, not a problem
"I want to try something new with you" lands very differently from "I need this because what we do isn't enough." The framing shapes the entire conversation. Approach it as something you're curious about and want to explore together, not as a critique of the current situation.
Start with something non-threatening
A simple bullet vibrator or a vibrating cock ring is a far less confronting suggestion for a first conversation than a strap-on or elaborate bondage kit. Start with the least intimidating entry point and establish a positive shared experience before exploring more adventurous territory.
Shopping together
Browsing online together removes individual awkwardness and turns the decision into a shared activity. Many couples find that browsing a range like Sex Toys Melbourne together becomes its own form of foreplay — talking about what looks interesting, what they're curious about, what they definitely aren't ready for yet.
Best Categories for Partnered Use
Bullet vibrators — the easiest first step
A small bullet vibrator held against the clitoris during penetrative sex is the single most practical and effective use of a toy in partnered sex. It adds the clitoral stimulation that penetration alone doesn't provide, can be held by either partner, requires no change to position or routine, and costs $30–40. This is the starting point most couples should begin with.
Vibrating cock rings — simultaneous stimulation
Worn by the penetrating partner, a vibrating cock ring delivers vibration to both partners during sex simultaneously — the wearer at the base of the penis, and the receiver at the clitoris. No additional toy management required. Just enhanced stimulation built into the sex itself.
Air pulsation toys during foreplay
Air pulsation toys like the Satisfyer range work excellently during foreplay — a partner using one on you as part of foreplay is intimate and attentive. They also work during sex held between partners in positions where there's physical space for them.
Rabbit vibrators with a partner
A rabbit vibrator during partnered play can be used by you during solo moments in a session, or held in place during certain positions. In positions with a gap (side-lying, for example) a rabbit can provide dual stimulation while a partner stimulates other areas.
Strap-ons for couples
Strap-ons expand what's physically possible between partners. For same-sex female couples, strap-ons enable penetration. For mixed-sex couples, they enable role reversal and pegging (female partner penetrating male partner). For couples interested in exploring power dynamics and new sensations, strap-ons open significant new territory. Browse our full strap-on range.
Couples kits
Pre-bundled sets designed for couples provide a complete starting point without having to build a collection from scratch. The Playboy Twisted Playground kit includes a vibrator and cock ring; the Adam & Eve Red Hot Sex Kit provides a comprehensive 13-piece experience.
Our Top Picks for Partnered Play — Available Now in Melbourne
Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3 — $89.99
The definitive air pulsation toy — app-connected, waterproof, and genuinely transformative for clitoral stimulation. Used during foreplay by a partner or held between you during sex, the Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 adds clitoral stimulation that penetration simply doesn't provide. The app connectivity means a partner can control it remotely during play for an added dynamic.
App connected • 11 programs • Waterproof • USB rechargeable • Partner controllable
Gender X Full Swing Vibrating Cock Ring — $89.99
A vibrating cock ring with a double penetrator arm — providing vaginal stimulation, clitoral vibration, and anal stimulation simultaneously. One of the most complete couples toys in terms of simultaneous stimulation for both partners. If you want a single toy that does the most for both people at once, this is it.
Simultaneous stimulation • Three zones • USB rechargeable • Multiple modes • Both partners
Easy Strap-On Set 7.5" — $64.95
A complete beginner strap-on set including harness and dildo — designed to make the first strap-on experience straightforward. The adjustable harness fits most bodies and the 7.5" dildo is an accessible size for first-time strap-on use. For couples who want to explore pegging, role reversal, or femme-plus penetration, this is the easiest starting point.
Complete set • Harness included • 7.5" dildo • Adjustable harness • Beginner-friendly
Playboy Pleasure Twisted Playground Kit — $139.99
A complete couples kit from Playboy Pleasure — a rechargeable vibrator and matching cock ring set that provides everything needed for a complete partnered toy experience in one purchase. The matching design means both pieces are clearly intended for paired use. USB rechargeable, multiple modes, body-safe silicone throughout.
Complete couples kit • Vibrator + cock ring • USB rechargeable • Matching design • Everything included
Tips for the First Time Using Toys With a Partner
Start simple
A bullet vibrator or a vibrating cock ring is the right starting point for most couples — not because more elaborate toys aren't worthwhile, but because a positive first shared experience with something simple makes future exploration much easier.
Establish that it's for both of you
Framing the toy as something for the experience of both of you — rather than a supplement to what one partner provides — removes any implication of inadequacy. "This is something we're trying together" is the right framing.
Talk during, not just after
Brief real-time feedback — "yes, that" or "a bit to the left" — is more useful than a debrief afterward. Establishing a pattern of small, real-time communication normalises it and makes both partners more comfortable with guidance.
Don't try to do everything at once
Start with one thing. See what works. Add more in subsequent sessions. Trying three new things simultaneously creates complexity and potential awkwardness. One new element per experience is more than enough.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if my partner feels threatened by the idea of toys?
Frame it as adding to the experience rather than supplementing something missing. Reassure that toys don't replace partners — they add sensation that the human body simply can't replicate in the same way. Starting with a couples toy (like a vibrating cock ring that benefits both) rather than a personal toy shows the experience is about both of you.
What's the easiest couples toy to start with?
A bullet vibrator held against the clitoris during penetrative sex requires the least explanation and the least change to routine. It's the lowest-barrier, highest-impact starting point for most couples.
Can I use my existing toys with a partner?
Absolutely. Any toy you already own and enjoy can be incorporated into partnered sex. There's no rule that solo toys stay solo.
What's a good strap-on for beginners?
The Easy Strap-On Set ($64.95) — a complete set including harness and appropriately sized dildo. The adjustable harness fits most bodies and the size is manageable for first-time use.
How quickly does delivery to Melbourne take?
Same-day dispatch before 2pm AEST. Melbourne metro 1–3 business days in plain unmarked packaging.
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