How to Use a Prostate Massager — A Complete Melbourne Guide
How to Use a Prostate Massager — A Complete Melbourne Guide
The prostate massager is one of the most misunderstood and most underused toys available — and for people with a prostate, it may produce the most intense orgasms of any toy in existence. The prostate gland responds to stimulation in a way that's fundamentally different from penile stimulation, and many people who discover prostate play describe it as one of the most significant sexual discoveries of their lives.
This guide covers everything: what the prostate is and why stimulating it feels the way it does, exactly how to use a prostate massager step by step, the different types available, our top Melbourne picks, and answers to every question you're likely to have.
Quick links:
- What is the prostate and why does stimulation feel so good?
- Types of prostate massagers
- How to use a prostate massager step by step
- Our top Melbourne picks
- The prostate orgasm explained
- Frequently asked questions
What Is the Prostate and Why Does Stimulation Feel So Good?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located approximately 5–7cm inside the rectum, against the anterior (front) wall. Its primary biological function is to produce seminal fluid, but it's also richly innervated — packed with nerve endings that connect directly to the same nerve network as the penis, creating intense pleasure when stimulated.
The prostate is sometimes called the "P-spot" or "male G-spot" because the type of orgasm it can produce — a prostate orgasm — is qualitatively different from a standard penile orgasm. Where a penile orgasm tends to be more localised and briefer, a prostate orgasm is often described as full-body, longer-lasting, and more intense. Many people with prostates report that their first prostate orgasm was unlike anything they'd experienced before.
You don't need to ejaculate to have a prostate orgasm. Some prostate orgasms occur without any penile stimulation at all — though combining prostate stimulation with penile stimulation (a "blended" orgasm) is widely regarded as producing the most intense results.
Types of Prostate Massagers
Curved vibrating massagers
The most common type — a curved insertable shaft that angles toward the anterior wall of the rectum to apply direct pressure and vibration to the prostate. Most modern prostate massagers in this category are USB rechargeable with multiple vibration speeds and patterns. The curve is specifically designed to direct stimulation toward the prostate rather than the general rectal wall.
Hands-free passive massagers
Pioneered by the Aneros brand, these are non-vibrating massagers designed to be inserted and left in place while the natural contractions of the pelvic floor muscles (triggered by arousal and movement) provide the stimulation. They work with your body's natural movements rather than motors. Some people find these produce more intense results than vibrating versions because the stimulation is subtler and builds gradually. They require a different technique — patience and relaxation rather than active movement.
Thrusting massagers
Motorised massagers with a thrusting function — the shaft moves in and out automatically, providing active prostate stimulation without manual movement. The LEVELZ Vibrating & Thrusting massager is a good example.
Remote-controlled massagers
Prostate massagers with wireless remote controls, allowing a partner to control the stimulation. Popular for couples who want to incorporate prostate stimulation into partnered play without the wearer needing to manage the controls manually.
How to Use a Prostate Massager — Step by Step
Step 1 — Preparation
Use the toilet and rinse the anal area with warm water beforehand. An anal douche is optional but some people prefer the reassurance of a more thorough clean — available in our anal douche range. You don't need to douche for prostate play to be perfectly clean and enjoyable.
Step 2 — Get fully aroused
This is the most important step and the one most commonly skipped. The prostate swells slightly when aroused, making it easier to locate and more sensitive to stimulation. The anal sphincter also relaxes with arousal, making insertion more comfortable. Spend significant time on arousal before attempting insertion — masturbation, partnered foreplay, erotic material, whatever works for you. The more aroused you are when you begin, the better the experience will be.
Step 3 — Apply anal lubricant generously
Apply a generous amount of dedicated anal lubricant — thicker than regular lube — to both the massager and the anal opening. Reapply during play if needed. Water-based lube is essential with silicone toys. Browse our lubricant range for anal lube options.
Step 4 — Warm up externally
Massage the external anal opening with a lubricated fingertip or the tip of the massager before attempting insertion. Spend 1–2 minutes here. This relaxes the sphincter and begins directing pleasurable sensation to the area before penetration.
Step 5 — Insert slowly
Insert the massager slowly with the curve pointing toward your belly button (anterior/front). Apply gentle, consistent pressure and exhale slowly as you insert — exhaling relaxes the pelvic floor. Don't force. Let the body open gradually. Insert to the depth where the curved tip applies pressure against the anterior rectal wall — you'll typically feel a sensation that's distinct from general fullness when the tip is on or near the prostate.
Step 6 — Locate the prostate
The prostate is approximately 5–7cm inside on the anterior (belly button) side. Once the massager is inserted to this depth with the curve pointing forward, you should feel a distinct sensation — a pressure or urgency that's different from regular fullness. This is normal and indicates the massager is in approximately the right position. Adjust depth and angle slightly until you find the spot that produces the strongest sensation.
Step 7 — Start the vibration on low
Once positioned, turn on vibration at the lowest setting. The prostate is highly sensitive and low settings are often sufficient — don't jump to high intensity immediately. Give your body time to respond to the vibration before increasing intensity.
Step 8 — Add penile stimulation (optional but recommended)
Combining prostate stimulation with penile stimulation — either manual or with a vibrator — produces what many describe as the most intense orgasm possible. You don't have to, but it's worth trying. The blended orgasm from simultaneous prostate and penile stimulation is what most people are referring to when they describe prostate play as revelatory.
Step 9 — Breathe, relax, and allow
Prostate orgasms often take longer to build than penile orgasms, particularly on first attempts. The key is to stay relaxed and allow the stimulation to build without forcing. Tightening up or becoming frustrated interrupts the process. Deep, slow breathing helps. Some people find that consciously contracting and releasing the pelvic floor muscles (a Kegel squeeze) while the massager is in place significantly intensifies the stimulation.
Step 10 — Remove slowly
Remove slowly with gentle outward pressure. Bearing down (as if having a bowel movement) relaxes the sphincter. Clean the massager immediately after use.
Our Top Prostate Massager Picks — Available Now in Melbourne
Renegade Thumper Prostate Massager — $69.99
A well-priced, well-built curved prostate massager from the Renegade range — USB rechargeable with a curve specifically designed for prostate contact. At 13.1cm it's sized appropriately for most users, and at $69.99 it's our top value prostate massager recommendation for beginners and experienced users alike.
13.1cm • Curved for prostate • USB rechargeable • Multiple modes • Great value
LEVELZ Rippled Prostate Massager — $29.99
A non-motorised passive prostate massager — designed to be inserted and stimulate through natural pelvic floor contractions. The rippled texture provides additional stimulation along the shaft, and the hard loop retrieval handle makes removal easy. At $29.99 it's an affordable entry point for passive prostate exploration.
Non-motorised • Ripple texture • Hard loop retrieval • Passive stimulation • $29.99
LEVELZ Vibrating & Thrusting Prostate Massager — $89.99
A premium prostate massager that combines vibration and thrusting in one device — the shaft vibrates while also delivering a thrusting motion for active prostate stimulation. At 14.7cm with body-safe silicone construction, this is a serious upgrade for users who want more than passive vibration alone.
14.7cm • Vibrating + thrusting • Body-safe silicone • USB rechargeable • Premium
Shop LEVELZ Vibrating Thrusting →
Maia Colton Vibrating Prostate Massager with Remote — $99.99
Maia's premium prostate massager — a beautifully designed curved vibrating massager with a wireless remote for hands-free control. The remote lets you adjust vibration without interrupting play, or hand control to a partner. Maia's build quality is exceptional and this is one of the best-looking prostate massagers available at its price point.
Curved design • Wireless remote • USB rechargeable • Maia quality • Hands-free control
The Prostate Orgasm Explained
The prostate orgasm is the goal many people are working toward when they use a prostate massager, and understanding what it is helps set realistic expectations.
What does a prostate orgasm feel like?
People describe prostate orgasms in different ways — but common descriptions include: full-body rather than localised, longer-lasting, building in waves rather than peaking abruptly, and more intense than penile orgasms alone. Some people experience them as completely different to anything they've felt before. Some describe a sensation of heat or electricity spreading through the body. Some produce significant amounts of prostatic fluid even without ejaculation.
Does everyone experience prostate orgasms?
Not immediately, and not every time. For many people, the first few sessions with a prostate massager don't produce an orgasm — the body needs time to learn to respond to this type of stimulation. This is completely normal. The key is patience and consistency. Many people report that their breakthrough comes after several sessions, sometimes several weeks of practice.
Why relaxation is the key
Prostate orgasms require a level of pelvic relaxation that's counterintuitive for most people. The instinct is to tense up as pleasure builds — but with prostate play, tensing the pelvic floor inhibits the orgasm. Consciously practicing relaxation, slow breathing, and "letting go" rather than chasing the orgasm is what most experienced prostate play practitioners describe as the key to unlocking it.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is prostate massage safe?
Yes, when done correctly with appropriate toys (always with a flared base or retrieval cord), sufficient lubrication, and without force. The prostate is sensitive and shouldn't be stimulated too aggressively — pressure and gentle vibration are the goal, not forceful impact.
Do I need to be gay or bisexual to enjoy prostate play?
No. Sexual response is physiological. The prostate produces pleasure when stimulated regardless of sexual orientation. The enjoyment of prostate stimulation has no relationship to sexual orientation.
I've tried prostate massagers before and didn't feel much. What am I doing wrong?
The most common causes: not being sufficiently aroused before starting, not finding the correct position/depth, going too quickly, or tensing up rather than relaxing. Try getting significantly more aroused before starting, experimenting with different depths and angles, and focusing on relaxation and slow breathing rather than chasing an outcome.
What's the best prostate massager for beginners in Melbourne?
The LEVELZ Rippled ($29.99) is the most affordable entry point — non-motorised, which actually makes it easier to start with as it responds to your body's natural movement. The Renegade Thumper ($69.99) is our top vibrating option for beginners who want active stimulation.
Can prostate massagers be used during sex with a partner?
Yes. Wearing a prostate massager during partnered sex — whether penetrative or otherwise — adds simultaneous prostate stimulation. The Maia Colton's wireless remote makes this particularly suitable for partner-controlled play. Browse our couples sex toys for more inspiration.
How do I clean a prostate massager?
Thoroughly after every use with toy cleaner and warm water. Non-motorised silicone can be boiled or dishwashed. Motorised waterproof versions can be rinsed under running water. Non-waterproof versions should be wiped down carefully away from charging ports.
How quickly does delivery to Melbourne take?
Same-day dispatch on orders before 2pm AEST. Melbourne metro typically receives orders in 1–3 business days in plain unmarked packaging.
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